1. She might not reach out to make plans, because she doesn’t want to be shut down or rejected, especially early on. Instead, she’ll respond by making sure you know how much she appreciates you taking initiative, & will be open to trying new things when you propose them. 2. She stopped herself from just blowing you off. She’s trying. Trying to believe that you aren’t just anyone, to believe your first move won’t be to hurt her. 3. She wants to love blindly, but she can’t because before you met her, she learned exactly what can happen when you wholeheartedly put all your faith in one person: They can leave. But her belief in that big, unattainable love exists & if she’s giving you a chance it means you have qualities she thinks could fit with hers. She wouldn’t bother otherwise. 4. She will be overly protective about her private life/friends/family. 5. She’ll talk about the future in generalizations – not so she doesn’t freak you out, so she doesn’t freak herself out. 6. If she calls you out on something that bothered her, she’s beginning to trust you. She’d typically brush it off, ignore it, or phase you out if you did something to upset her. But if she’s willing to explain how you made her feel in a specific instance, she thinks you’re worth keeping around. 7. She takes commitment seriously & doesn’t want to rush. Fear of rejection means biding your time before putting yourself in a vulnerable position. 8. The more she likes you, the higher her expectations will be. (But if she sees how hard you try, she’s also more apt to be forgiving.) 9. She will appear to not need you & it’s through no fault of your own. She doesn’t want to appear to rely on anyone but herself because people who are hesitant to trust don’t want to openly admit that they need anyone else to be happy. 10. You’ll know she’s going for longevity if she opens up to you about why she has trouble trusting people in the first place. She won’t lay it out for you, but she’ll give you pieces from her past relationships, or share a small bit of the story about who hurt her. She’ll want you to understand where she’s coming from, & she’ll want to understand anything that hurt you too. #MayaK 

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