Husband vs Father.

Okay so Yesterday I was up all night from 12 am till around 5:30 am arguing on Instagram with a bunch of people about a situation whereby a wife walks in on her Husband and Father Arguing and in the process her Husband instructs her to get in the car while her father commands her to sit down! which begs the question “what should the wife do?”

A. Get in the car

B. Sit down

C. Feminist.

My straight up answer was that she should get in the car (A) because as the husband, he is the head of a family and that includes his wife,  so he has the right to tell her what to do. And that the father countering the husband’s directive at his wife is totally wrong in the first place. A wise father shouldn’t even counter the husbands directive in the first place if he has respect for the husband as man to man and also for their marriage after he has literally given hs daughter away to the husband’s family, the literal definition of a wedding ceremony. And without hesitation, Your family should always come first for both the husband and wife in any scenario especially when there’s a child involved.But to my surprise, quite a few ladies went with option (B) and even bashed me on my opinion saying all sorts that wives aren’t tools or household pets that should be commanded by her Husband!. According to them, it’s totally normal for a father to command their children, after all, he was the one who fed, pampered and raised her to become the wife the husband married. so the father is right by commanding the wife. One lady even went ahead and pointed out the fact that a Husband is just a mere partner and he should respect himself so he can be respected. And some went for (C.) instead. Another lady accused me of being “chivaunistic”, that I’m advocating for abusive men in relationships by simply stating the fact that A wife should listen to her husband instead of a father, that even the husband is being disrespectful to her father in the first place and he should be wise enough to respect her father too and both sit down.

After several hours of arguing, I googled the definition of a husband for the lady that said he is just a mere partner and lo and behold, I found in my second result a biblical definition of a husband. My apologies to those who aren’t Christians, but this is a verse to support my opinion. [Ephesians 5:22, 28-31. “Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, even as Christ is head of the church; and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so let wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wife as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it..]

At the end of the day, my conclusion was that women are implausible #nooffence 🙂 to all women, but its the truth. I don’t want to get on anyone’s nerves this new year, so no offence again. But in a reverse scenario whereby it’s between the wife and husband’s mother, and the husband listens to his mother,  we all know where that marriage is headed… but its totally fine to listen to your father over your husband? *yikes*

 

Please, readers, I want your honest opinion on the situation. let’s discuss, share opinions and rub minds together. should the wife listen to her husband or father?

 

 

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